I love talking to people!! Actually I love listening to people. Their stories help shape my appreciation of the human species here on this planet.
Over the years, while holding conversations with various folks, I find myself using phrases that are not only thought provoking but also catchy. While some of the phrases are not original, with a little tweaking they still serve a purpose to the conversation. Today I would like to share a few of my commonly used colloquialisms…
If it ain’t Fucking, Feeding or Financing YOU… — I tell this to my associates when they chat with me about having a hard time with a loved (lust) one. It is pretty much self explanatory. Don’t get upset with someone for not treating you well, especially if they aren’t doing ALL three of the Fs. You will also realize where others stand with you when you are not providing ALL 3 Fs to them. This holds a lot of weight with a lot of young couples in toxic relationships. I realize that being in a relationship isnt going to be all unicorns and rainbows. However comma if you find yourself getting depressed, mad or angry over how you are being treated- its good to remember the 3 Fs and govern your reactions accordingly.
Having one of the 3Ps will keep you and your children from going hungry — Peanuts, Popcorn or Pussy. I chuckle every time I use this phrase to my sisters/daughters/Village Queens. This was told to me by one of my older cousins many moons ago! She was asking for some money, and I didn’t have any to give, I was still worried about her well-being. She smiled at me and said this phrase. At the time, I was young and naive, so I took it literally. LOL she didn’t have any peanuts or popcorn sooooo,,,, But once I became a mother/surrogate, I realized that ‘peanuts and popcorn’ also referred to talents and skills. Yes, pussy meant pussy, duh!! However comma, having a skill or talent gives you something else to provide in order to get the finances you and your family need to survive. I even found mySELF using this phrase to a case worker when she asked me how I was able to care for my child without using the welfare system.
Pusher, Preacher, Politician — Here is another 3P reference I was taught and use from time to time. It refers to the life cycle. My pops used to say this in reference to Black Men. As I matured and interacted with a more diverse crowd, I notice this phrase applies to more than just the Black Man (and even beyond just men). If you are a bit older, think back on a typical life cycle. We start in life ‘pushing’ something. Whether it is our skills, talents or products- we are pushing something to make money. Then comes the time in life when you reach an ‘awakening’. You may not become a pulpit preacher, but if you find yourself learning and practicing a form of spirituality, then you have reached the ‘preaching’ stage of life. The final stage is being a politician. Sometimes its a combination of all 3Ps that makes for being the best politician. I mean, how else will you be able to reach the masses to get your ‘agenda’ across unless you know how to sell a product that you believe in?
Keep Living… — this is what my mother used to say to me. Truth be told, I hated this phrase growing up. But once again, after becoming a mother/surrogate it became painfully clear what this saying truly means. Whenever my actions/thoughts/words are questioned by a younger person- I automatically spit out this phrase to them. Following her death at the young age of 46, added another twist to the phrase. I mean, how else will you fully experience the lessons of this life unless you Keep Living?
It Takes a Village… — Being a single mother, one comes to realize real quick that it takes a whole village to help raise your children positively. Anyone who says they can do it all by themselves is lying to themselves. I take this phrase to heart, because I personally have witnessed the phenomenal wonders of villages supported by Beautiful Soul Tribes. These Villages present to the world Power-filled Kings and Queens who are determined and focused on the works needed to create Collective Empires! They overstand the assignment to ‘Keep Living’.
Don’t plant apple seeds and expect to harvest orange trees… — Basically saying that what you reap is what you sow. A lot of folks don’t realize that what (ideas, thoughts, dreams, aspirations) they plant in their lives will produce the crop it is engineered to create. No matter what you hope for, the crop will do what it does. It is futile to hope for results that are never gonna happen. So plant with awareness and intentions so that your harvest will be of great use to you and your purpose.
Purpose and Potential … — THIS IS THE ONE! This is part of a phrase that gives me strength and hope for My future as well as the future of My Children’s Children’s Children. My oldest daughter actually has the full phrase tatted on her arm- she is way bolder than I ever could be. The full phrase is ‘Your Purpose and Potential is Greater than Our Past Pain and Problems’. Anytime that you find yourself feeling defeated and ready to give up, try to remember that no matter what happened in the past, you are still living towards your purpose and you have the potential needed to fulfill it!
Those are a few of my commonly used phrases. Those who know me, most likely have heard one or two of them. If I have ever used a phrase that encouraged/inspired/motivated you, please share in the comments below. Like I said, I love listening to people! And if my words have been of value to you in your life, please let me know… give me ‘flowers while I am living’!
Brand Camille 2020 